You're not broken. You're carrying something that hasn't been dealt with
Trauma therapy for anyone tired of dragging old wounds into a life that's supposed to be moving forward — men, women, and couples. In-person in Beaverton, or online across Oregon
Something's off and white-knuckling it isn't working
You hit a point where things have to change. Becoming a parent. Watching a relationship fray. Wounds — old or new — that keep dragging you down no matter how hard you push through.
You've probably tried to handle it the way you handle everything else: grind it out, stay busy, keep it together for everyone else. And it is not working. The anger shows up where it shouldn't. The distance with your spouse keeps growing. The thing you swore you were over still runs the show.
That's not a character flaw. That's trauma doing what trauma does.
Trauma is rarely the story you think it is
Most people think trauma means one terrible event — the crash, the assault, the worst day of your life. Sometimes it is. But more often, trauma is anything that was needed or useful then but isn't now and was never fully resolved. It doesn't stay in the past. It lives in your nervous system and quietly runs in the present.
That's why it doesn't look like "trauma" from the outside.
Trauma looks like:
A man who can't figure out why he's angry, shut down, or never quite present — even though, on paper, life is fine.
Someone who keeps everyone else okay and can't put the load down — staying a step ahead of everyone's needs because, once, safety depended on it.
A couple stuck in the same fight on a loop — two nervous systems bracing for an old threat that the other person didn't cause.
It can also surface at the biggest moments — becoming a parent, a new relationship, a loss — when old wounds rise under the weight of something new. When you understand trauma this way, the question stops being "what's wrong with me?" and becomes "what happened, and what will it take for it to stop driving?" That's the work we do.
Direct, focused, and not interested in wasting your time
We work in a calm, relaxed space — but I don't believe in open-ended drifting. My style is direct without being bossy. You talk openly, we sort through what's actually going on, and we stay focused on what helps.
I'm trained in EMDR and IFS — proven approaches for resolving trauma that's stored in the body, not just talked about. Where it fits, I also draw on CBT, DBT, narrative, and family systems work. The method serves you, not the other way around.
You already know a lot about your own life. Our work sharpens what you know so you can move forward with purpose.
Who I help
Anyone carrying any kind of trauma history
Trauma doesn't care who you are. I work with women and men who've carried deep wounds for years — the things that reshaped how you trust, how you sleep, how close you let people get. I have a long track record helping people put that weight down. Old or new, we make sense of it and get you moving again.
Men who've been dragging it around
Trauma rarely announces itself in men. It shows up as anger, numbness, distance, or a sense that you're going through the motions. If you're ready to stop dragging it around, this is the work.
Couples who keep hitting the same wall
Most relationship conflict is two people's old wounds colliding. We get underneath the fight to what's actually happening.
What changes
You stop reacting to a past that isn't happening anymore. The anger has somewhere to go. You can be present with your spouse and your kids without bracing. The wound that ran the show loses its grip.
Not a perfect life — a life that fits who you actually are, lived with steadiness and purpose
About Ben
I'm a native Oregonian who came to this work after years of trying to understand my own life, relationships, and questions of meaning. I've struggled with fantastic disappointments of my own. That history keeps me grounded — and keeps me honest about how hard real change is.
I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor (Oregon C5725), in practice for over a decade. After years in community mental health and an intensive outpatient program at Providence St. Vincent's — working with severe depression and anxiety — I returned to longer-term individual and couples work. My current focus is trauma treatment, and I keep sharpening it.
For physicians, pastors, and referring providers
If you have someone who needs trauma-informed care, I make referrals simple. I work with adults, couples, teens, and older adults, in-person in Beaverton and online throughout Oregon. I treat trauma across the board — men and women — with particular depth in men's work and couples, and I'm a male therapist who takes couples. Primary focus: trauma and PTSD, men's issues, and relationship/marital work. EMDR and IFS trained.
I offer a free 15-minute consultation so the person you're sending can find out quickly whether we're a good fit — no pressure, no runaround.
Ready when you are
Call for a free 15-minute consultation to see if we're a good fit. I'm looking forward to hearing from you.